Text: Ephesians 4:26-27
“And don’t sin by letting anger gain control over you, don’t let the sun go down while you are still angry, for anger gives a mighty foothold to the devil.”
- Get the anger out of conflict before processing it. Cool down before you talk, but commit to talk as soon as possible – always within 24 hours.
- Stick to the issue and stay on the subject.
- See yourself as a team. Always remember who the real enemy is, its not you or your mate! Attack the problem, not the person.
- Affirm your spouse and your marriage during discussions.
- Be responsible for your own anger. No one has made you angry, you chose to deal with the problem with anger.
- Take the lead in resolving the issue. Your spouse may be clueless there is a problem.
- Find a peacemaker if necessary.
- Use “I” statements when telling your spouse you’re angry. “I got angry when you made fun of me” or “I felt unimportant when you were late and didn’t call”.
- Remember, anger is not a sin, but it is often a secondary emotion triggered by jealousy, insecurity, fear, fatigue or other feelings.
- Forgive, forgive and forgive.